All posts by Deborah Graham

As seen on TLC, relationship expert Deborah Graham has matched people around the world. She has a special gift, a psychic ability, and knows if he/she is truly your soul mate.

Why Can’t I Find Love?

Each of us has a right to love and to be loved. After all, love is the foundation of our soul, opening the energy centers of the heart where we feel connected to life.  But some may trust the idea that love is not for them.  Others may believe that love escapes them at every corner. Or, maybe you have stopped considering that your soul mate or Twin Flame truly exists. Love is available to everyone. The more we are willing to work on ourselves in relationship to others, the closer true love becomes.

Relationships take work.  They require us to be vulnerable, to be open to change and communication, to be open to receiving and open to letting go of what no longer serves us.  Two people living in harmony does not happen overnight, regardless of what the fairy tales say.  Each relationship we enter into, whether for love or friendship teaches us something about ourselves.  We have to look beneath the surface, and embrace the answers found in order for true love to enter.

Look Beneath the Surface
Look Beneath the Surface

Back in the 70’s, Karen Carpenter sang a song entitled “I Need To Be In Love”.  Perhaps one of the lines from her song hits home for you.

“I know I ask perfection in a quite imperfect world,

And fool enough to think that’s what I’ll find.”

Continue reading Why Can’t I Find Love?

Clearing Yourself For A New and Healthy Relationship

“Friendship with oneself is all important, because, without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the World. “
–  Eleanor Roosevelt

A new and healthy relationship begins with you.  Many associate relationship with someone outside of themselves.  Fairy Tales teach that life is about finding “Our Knight In Shining Armor”; only then can we live happily ever after.  The other side of this is “we have to kiss a lot of toads before finding our knight”.

Have to kiss a lot of toads
“We have to kiss a lot of toads before finding our knight”

Our last blog mentioned that each relationship is a part of you, each relationship teaches you something about yourself, and each relationship draws you closer to true happiness.  Peace is found within, not without; know yourself at all levels.

You are the sum of all of your parts – your younger child, your rebellious teenager, and your adventurous adult.   You are your own soul mate. Continue reading Clearing Yourself For A New and Healthy Relationship

What Is Love?

“Souls recognize each other by vibes not by appearances.” — Unknown Author

True love is an energetic connection.  It is as familiar to us as we are to ourselves.  It is an ingrained soul vibration, not an appearance, or a date night, or even a political party affiliation, recognized by two people at all levels of there being.  When true love arrives, this soul vibration hits you in the gut and brings forth a revelation of déjà vu.  It is as though this true love soul vibration taps you on the shoulder and whispers in your ear, “I’ve known this person before”.

In today’s world we have an app for everything.  We use our mobile devices to locate people, places and objects, anything that grabs our attention.  We use social networks to track our friend’s likes, dislikes, comings and goings, and to post “selfies” of our own external reality.  Social networks are often our hunting ground where we try to fit pieces of our puzzle together in hopes of finding one true love.  But true love is not always easy to find.  It is often times necessary to disconnect from the World and connect with our own inner self in order for our Twin Flame, that mirror image of self, to arrive. Continue reading What Is Love?